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Childfree Rant

The New York Times published a funny rant from an older childfree woman. An excerpt: “I’m amazed that people would be bold enough to inquire as to why I never had kids, yet I would never be nervy enough to ask anyone why they had children. We’re not an agrarian society any longer, where more hands help farm the land.”

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Childfree Without Regrets

Laura Carroll posted a well-researched argument that parents are more likely to regret their decision than people who choose not to have kids. I hope this encourages the nudges out there to stop telling the childfree that we will regret our decision when it’s too late — like the doctor who pushed and pushed a childfree friend of mine to freeze some sperm before his vasectomy. Thanks for the advice, but we don’t need the ice.

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A Psychologist Considers Why The Childfree Might Be Happier

In a new contribution to the debate over the relationship between happiness and parenting, psychologist Ellen Walker proposes five explanations for her finding that childfree people are happier than parents. Here they are in her words:

1. It’s easier for childfree adults to stay physically healthy.
2. Childfree adults have an easier time holding onto a youthful attitude.
3. Childfree women have an easier time keeping their girlish figures than women who have borne children.
4. Childfree couples are happier than couples with kids.
5. All that free time actually is a good thing.

Numbers 2 and 5 in particular go against the societal grain. We generally prize maturity and castigate childishness, and as for busyness, complaining about how little free time one has is practically a form of bragging, at least here in New York City. But a youthful attitude is not the same thing as childishness, and having free time doesn’t mean one doesn’t contribute to society. Walker’s thought-provoking analysis is brief and worth a read.

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